I think shootin's is on to something. One cannot feel the club head if the grip is too tight. Loosen that grip and do some waggles until you feel the weight on the end of the club. Think about swinging the club head instead of the shaft and really feel that weight. Visualize that club head in your minds eye. Also check your grip. Is one hand overpowering another? Try to get balance in the grip. It may help you fell the club head better. I hate to repeat myself but I really like this article on the grip. It really emphasizes how much you need to grip with the fingers.

http://golf.about.com/od/golftips/ss/golfgrip_lead.htm