hi
what he says is partly true, with a faster swing most top player will go with steel shafts but Graphite shafts have got so good in the last 4 or 5 years that the difference is getting less and less, the biggest difference is the weight, with graphite shafted clubs you will find you will swing faster as the club is lighter also when you get into your 50s you will find that graphite shafts may help you keep the speed of your swing up as your swing started to slow when you get to your 50s and 60s. you don't say what graphite shafts you have in your bag and what steel shafts you would compare them with, but i bet someone like lowpost could make up a club with both steel and graphite and you would be hard to feel any real difference.
you also said about graphite twisting more but i would not worry about that as nearly all drivers and woods are graphite shafted now and its hard to find someone with a steel shafted driver and the driver will twist more than an iron would.
i have a 3 iron thats graphite shafted but it feels like the rest of my clubs as it has a matching swing weight i feel no difference using it to using the rest of my steel shafted irons.
some people just don't like graphite irons and you hear all sots of story's of graphite irons breaking at the hosel but really it no more than the number of steel shafts that break.
if i was like you and in my 50s then i think graphite shafted might help me more than steel in the next 10 or so years.
did you get to try both graphite and steel shafted clubs to see if one felt better than the other to you.
cheers
bill

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