i have a few buddies i play with who seem to be everything this is telling you not to be. its crazy to me some people are constantly thinking about a score. for example, some people will play 3 or 4 holes and evaluate what they are still able to score for the 9, and constantly think about it and change the number every hole it seems. sometimes they make comments like, 'i just lost 2 shots to you on that hole'. ive never understood, especially when there is nothing to win, how you lost strokes to another player.