Just read your post and figured I'd tell you the site I came across by accident.
It's called Swing for Life. It Changed my game and mindset totally. I've been a hacker since 1999. I found this site 40 days ago and I am now breaking the 90's.
This was the only site that ever helped me. I was determined to learn this game without lessons. The Guy on this site fully explains the swing in simple easy lessons. Its free, and I'm in no way affilliated with it. I just figured I'd pass it along. Good luck!
http://www.SwingLife.iwarp.com/pages/overthetop.html