To back up bagfull, try to stay away from labels. Clubs are clubs. My first set of clubs were ladies clubs - unbeknownst to me at the time. But they were right for my swing speed at the time. (But totally the wrong length - I'm 6'1", and the driver stopped @ 40"!)

After some lessons and standard length mens clubs, I needed to sell the ladies clubs, and whippy regular flex clubs were my deal (as my swing speed was still slow).

Lately I've been playing with (by lately, I mean late October last year) pretty stiff regular flex shafts, and seeing good results.

So you need to find clubs that are the right length for you first, find grips that fit your hand (make sure you have a good golf grip! I put a death grip on my clubs, and now my grips are waaaaaaay too big... I have to choke down almost to the shaft to get the proper grip), and finally make sure the flex of shaft fits your swing speed.

But like TeachingPro says, there's no point in getting fitted until you have a generally repeatable swing.

Please note that a repeatable swing doesn't necessarily mean a good swing (although you should work towards that). Think about a cheap starter set (it'll have a couple of woods, a few irons, a wedge and a putter) to start, and get some lessons. Then, when you've got a nice swing, buy a full set of clubs, and get them fitted.