You can still get control out of graphite, so don't discount graphite just yet.

As for steel, the True Temper Dynamic Gold shafts and Royal Precision Rifle Shafts are really good.

For graphite, there are many good sfafts out there as well. Try the Aldila NV 75, Accuflex Evolution or Harrison Striper.

I just put a Striper in my 3W and it has really helped my accuracy. Plus, my distance is now about 270 with my 3W!